://rantings of a queer

It is such a known fact already that in this world, people whose gender preference falls under the middle of a male and female already exists. People who are not really accepted by society. You might have seen one already in a certain part of your life. You might have passed upon them in the mall; in the streets or he might just be sitting in front of you in class. Only a few accept these kinds of people. I am not just talking about gays but all the other categories that fall under in what you would call "third sex". They are always treated like a lower class in the society. Why is it that way?

HOW GAYS REALLY FEEL:

a) Why do we need to admit in the first place if were gay? Will you go to your family and blurt out "Mom, dad, I am a guy and I'm straight", diba hinde na? So what's the worth of admitting?

b) Not all gays are flirts and promiscuous. There are gays who act simply and decently. It is not our intention to harass men. We want to be respected not because we look like we should be respected but because we are human beings too.

c) It is not true that we are "women trapped in a man's body". We still have a little manhood left in each one of us. We still know how to respect women just like real men. And sometimes we can out beat straight guys because we have the power to speak up for ourselves and let it all out. We have voices and we are not afraid to let them out!

d) We are not made to entertain and be sidekicks of girls. Just turn on your TV screen and you'll see that these are the common roles of gays. They are being laughed at because of their colorful and outlandish clothes, queer words, and funny antics. Sometimes gays are even portrayed as over the top and loud individuals who are crazy about sex. They are also portrayed as people whose lives are perfect and have no problems at all. These are all stereotypes. Gays in the media are usually caricatures, not characters. Thus, when we see gay people in real life many do as they see on TV, and mock them.

e) We feel that we are not really accepted. Why are there only male and female boxes in birth certificates? Why are there no gay comfort rooms? How come there are a few out of the closet gay politicians? Are gays really considered low? Our questions might be malicious and vulgar; but this is how we feel. Sometimes we're just confused.

f) We still have things that even us ourselves can't explain and answer. Why do we admire the same sex? Why are we gay? How did we become gay? How does it feel? And more and more questions people ask everyday...the answer? We really don't know, but if ever I did answer those questions, will your perspective of gays change? So we don't really need to explain because this is what we are. You just have to accept it. Love for diversity and freedom of expression is always present it the gay community. Is that really so strange?

g) Being gay isn't infectious. No matter how many times you hang out with a gay; you will not and let me assure you; you won't be gay. The misconception that being gay is infectious is so wrong. And if you're asking why there are people who were "straight" before and now are gay. The answer is simple, they might just be hiding it before and now they had the courage to come out of the closet. People like that are better than people who act like who they are not. We should always be true to ourselves. Acting like someone you are not makes it even harder for you to know who you really are. That's why you shouldn't be scared of gays because these persons weren't afraid to act like themselves and show who they really are inside.

h) It's not all about sex. The biggest misconception about gay men is that all they want to do is sleep with straight guys. Once these macho males figure out that being gay is not just about sex, then the effort to bridge gaps is already half-accomplished.

h) We're not really sure of our future. Who will be with us when we get old? Will we have children that we can take care of? Are we going to marry?! I guess that our companions 'till we get old will still be gays who are also looking for that something that can make our torn lives complete.

Regardless of economic class or nationality, all gays and lesbians are bound by hardship. First, they have to struggle with themselves to either accept or deny their sexual orientation. After coming to terms with this personal experience, they have to deal with the effect that it has on the world around them.

When a gay wakes up, he will look in the mirror. A new day has come and begun. A day that he himself doesn't know what will happen. He'll ask himself questions... "Aalisputahin ba siya?" "Makikita niya ba
crush niya at babatiin ba siya nito?" "Makakachikahan niya ba ang best friend nya?" "May kukuha ba sa kaniya bilang isang tunay na kagroupo sa Biology,?" "May tatabi na kaya sa kaniya sa Mass ng kusang loob,?" "Matatanggap na kaya siya ng mga magulang niya?"

At that time, he can't really answer those questions. He'll take a bath, dress up, comb his hair, and leave. The scorching rays of the sun or the tears of the sad clouds might greet him. What he has to do is face all of this. When he backs up, he is also backing up on life. When a gay is scared to face the words "kadiri," "eew" "bakla" "malandi" at "ayoko sa 'yo" he can never see the real blessings of God.

Behind all the hurting words is your friend greeting you-"Ang ganda mo bakla!!" Smiles and happiness are all we need, and of course confidence, `wag kalimutan ang confidence, day!!

Our life is hard...harder than you can imagine. You think it’s easy being gay. Why don't you live a day in our lives...and you might just change your mind...

Actually, there are more that I want to say...more questions unanswered...more issues untackled...but if I answer all your questions, will your attitude towards gays change? That's what this article tried to do. To give you a deeper understanding on gays. But wouldn't it be nicer if you actually knew a gay and learned this by yourself. Each day of our lives, of course you don't really notice...you actually pass upon a gay. May it be in class,
in the mall and even in the church. We don't really notice the people around us and we just go on with our own lives. But if we take a look around, we will see that the world has so many personalities to offer, you just have to familiarize yourself with these people

This is a colorful world, and I am proud that I am one of those many people who adds color to it.